Episode 19: How to Show Up with Andrew Horn
The Most Important Thing
Junto men’s retreat at the end of March 2020 (I’ll be there)
Junto’s LA Men’s Retreat in Joshua Tree, March 27-29th
Episode Overview:
In this episode, Andrew and I explore what it means to be a HuMAN (not just A MAN). We discuss men’s work and Andrew defines the nuance between shame & guilt. Andrew explains how to show up in all relationships including when we feel insecure. He explains how to be high value – be curious, tell people why they’re awesome, & offer your support! We all have value just because of who we are – honor that and own it! We discuss the idea of self-transcendence, how we can all be of service, the way to deal with imposter syndrome, and letting go of relationships to serve the highest good. Finally, Andrew opens up about his marriage and how being a father has changed his life.
About Andrew Horn (Andrew’s Personal Website)
Andrew Horn is the creator of What’s the Big Idea (one of my favorite podcasts) and a men’s group called The Junto.
He is a serial social entrepreneur, speaker and writer based in Brooklyn, NY. He is a Global Shaper at the World Economic Forum, was selected to Startup Boost’s 33 under 33 and received the Mayor’s Community Service award in Washington, D.C at the age of 23. He founded Tribute.co to support his mission to spread gratitude and meaningful connection in the world. Before launching Tribute, Andrew started an award-winning children’s non-profit called Dreams for Kids DC.
Andrew is also a consultant and personal coach who specializes in supporting mission driven entrepreneurs and freelancers committed to helping people and moving the world forward in innovative ways.
Over the past ten years, Andrew has built and sustained two social enterprises, raised millions of dollars of capital for his companies, cultivated a thriving tribe of friends and colleagues worldwide, and built the family of his dreams with his wife Miki and baby boy, Hiro. All this while making time for an annual trip to Burning Man (8 years running), morning surf trips to the Rockaways and several international trips each year.
Andrew’s rare blend of entrepreneurial expertise, communication mastery and training as a coach are perfectly suited for founders and social entrepreneurs. He has shown hundreds of clients that true confidence, financial freedom and professional fulfillment are available to anyone who is ready to prioritize them.
Andrew was trained as a coach by his mentor, Lauren Zander (Founder of the renowned Handel Coaching Group). His coaching style is grounded in Gestalt communication practices and emotional mastery techniques that ensure lasting change in his clients.
My Favorite Quotes:
“It is in intimacy that we grow”
“Holy shit we’re alive. It’s all about gratitude and tribute - recognizing the miracle of life and having deep reverence for it”
“What I say to him every night: I tell Hiro the same three things: You are loved, you are supported, you are perfect exactly as you are”
Episode Breakdown:
0:00 - Long Intro from Me
10:00 – What does it mean to be a man?
20:00 – Cancel culture
25:00 – Defining shame & guilt
30:00 – The importance of language
32:00 – Gestalt Psychology
40:00 – The responsibility of men in relationships
44:00 – Letting go of relationships
53:00 – How we show up in our relationships
56:10 – Feeling good by making others feel good
1:02:00 – Self Transcendence
1:08:00 – Imposter syndrome
1:13:00 – How to be high value
1:20:30 – Reflections on his & all marriage
1:27:30 – What changed when he became a father
Episode Links:
Maslow’s Updated Hierarchy of Needs
Junto’s LA Men’s Retreat in Joshua Tree, March 27-29th
Sculpture that we discuss re: marriage
